In The Spirit By Susan L. Taylor

March 15, 2011 § Leave a comment


In The Spirit By: Susan L. Taylor 

Everyone is not healthy enough to have a front row seat in our lives…There are some people in your life that need to be loved from a distance. It is amazing what you can accomplish when you let go of or at least minimize your time with draining, negative, incompatible, not-going-anywhere relationships.

Observe the relationships around you. Pay attention.

Which ones lift and which ones lean? Which ones encourage and which ones discourage? Which ones are on a path of growth uphill and which ones are going downhill? When you leave certain people do you feel better or worse? Which ones always have drama or don’t really understand, know or appreciate you?

The more you seek quality, respect, growth, peace of mind, love and truth around you… the easier it will become for you to decide who gets to sit in the front row and who should be moved to the balcony of your life…


Ochocinco Loses Uno, Dos, Tres JOBS!!!

August 13, 2012 § Leave a comment

I just learned about this incident this morning. It is very unfortunate that brothers have such little respect for women. Is it just me or does it seem more common for black men in the spotlight to have these “episodes” where they abuse a female then cry victim.  He has in turn lost his Football contract as well as contracts for two reality shows (one with his wife Evelyn and one with his now EX-football team). Some say he is getting what he deserves. Some say that the Dolphins owner and reality show producers are going too far. What do you think?

Where Is The LOVE???

August 3, 2011 § 1 Comment

I have to give much respect to Professor Griff for bringing the epidemic of black on white love to the forefront.  I must ask this question.  Brotha’s, when did it become distasteful to have a Sista by your side DURING and AFTER you have reached success??

When Trendy Trumps Common Sense

July 13, 2011 § Leave a comment

When Trendy Trumps Common Sense

Model wearing ultra high heels

On a recent trip to the mall, I wanted to check out some of my favorite shoe stores.  I had not gone shoe shopping much with the exception of shopping for my daughter.  I already owned far too many shoes to go out and purchase more.  But on this particular day I wanted to at least start looking into what colors, styles, etc were out now.  What disappointment I felt.  I found myself walking in and out of store after store because all had the SAME thing in common.  4, 5 and 6 inch heels!!!

Yves Saint Laurent 6 inch Pumps

When in the world did this become fashionable???  I can think back about four or five years ago when seeing a pair of four-inch heeled stilettos would have made any normal woman shake their head and say NO WAY!  The only women I have always seen wearing this type of heel are models and strippers.  When did the women and teens with everyday jobs begin to think this was suitable attire?  There is no woman who can make me believe that their four-inch shoes are comfortable.

8 inch Pumps

I once bought a pair of 3 ½ inch boots for the winter and although I thought they were cute at the time, I could not wear them much.  My feet would beg for mercy every time I wore them and so they remained in the box more than on my feet.  So why have woman taken this step up to towering shoe heel heights?  From my observation, it is because of what is seen in the media.  Celebrities and models don these shoes more and more.  Almost every magazine spread or internet pictures of a celebrities or model shows this.

Victoria Beckham in 6 inch heels

Now let’s use some common sense Queens. Is this really something to do just because a celebrity does it?  Do the celebrities dress themselves??  NO, their stylists dress them.  What is the job of a stylist for a celebrity?  Is it not to dress the client in a fashion making them appear stylish as well as to bring the most attention?  Are these celebrities sitting in the next cube from you at work or standing next to you during your rush hour commute?  As foolish as it is to decide to wear these shoes, celebrities and models wear them for specific reasons and possibly for much shorter periods of time.  They are not wearing them to the mall or the laundromat or the library.

Beyonce in 4 inch heels

Now that I have touched on the common sense argument; let’s focus on the health aspect.  Many of us, me included, know that even the modest one and two-inch heels can impair foot health.  The height of the heels has a direct relation to tendon and ligament health, posture and toe alignment.  As the shoe height increases, the greater the chance of foot and tendon damage occurring.  According to Hagan (2008), the higher the heel of a shoe the more a person’s center of gravity is pushed forward.

Rhianna in 5 inch heels

The body adjusts to this by bending the back more but this alters the position of the spine and adds more pressure to nerves located in this area (Hagan, 2008).  Over prolonged periods of time this can cause a condition called sciatica to occur (Hagan, 2008).  The tendons in the lower leg are pliable to allow the foot to point and flex.  Women who wear high heels frequently inhibit the tendons ability to maintain its flexibility.  The tendons are rarely flexed so it tightens and shortens.

Mariah in 4 inch heels

This is why many women who wear high heels frequently find it uncomfortable to wear flats.  According to Voss (2010), the calf muscles can be shortened as much as 13% from the frequent wear of high heels.  The result is that the Achilles tendon can grow thicker and become permanently damaged.  The increased pressure also pushes the foot forward in the shoe causing corns from friction as well as hammertoes and bunions. Pregnant women should be especially careful because the body is already under increased pressure from the added weight of the baby.

High heel shoe for infants

A study on the frequent wearing of high heels by women found that out of 96 women interviewed over 50% experienced corns, 4% experienced crossed toes, 37% experienced hammer toes, 38% experienced bunions, 23% experienced chronic foot pain and 16% experienced foot arthritis (Dawson, J., Thorogood, M., Marks, S., Juszczak, E., Dodd, C., Lavis, G. and Fitzpatrick, R., 2002).  The overall point of this article is to encourage women to fully understand the advantages and disadvantages of what footwear is worn from a social and health perspective.

What do you think? Chime in and share your thoughts.



Dawson, J., Thorogood, M., Marks, S., Juszczak, E., Dodd, C., Lavis, G. and Fitzpatrick, R. (2002). The Prevalence of Foot Problems in Older Women: A Cause for Concern. Journal of Public Health Medicine, 24(2), 77-84.

Hagan, P. (2008). High Heel Horrors! The Hidden Cost of Your Body of Those Crucial Extra Inches. Retrieved from

High Heels Risk to Health of Pregnant Women. (2010). Retrieved from

Voss, M. (2010). Why High Heels Hurt Even After You Take Them Off. Retrieved from

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Mothers & Daughters – Television

March 15, 2011 § Leave a comment

Do you think that there are enough positive black mother/daughter relationships on television and in movies currently? Why or Why not?

Mothers & Daughters – Technology

March 15, 2011 § Leave a comment

Has the shift in the heavy use of technology affected communication with your mother/daughter positively or negatively? Why?

Mothers & Daughters – Music

March 15, 2011 § Leave a comment

With the increase in negative imagery of black women in music, whether it is in a music video or lyrical content, how do you protect what your daughter sees and hears? How did your mother protect you?

Mothers & Daughters – Grandmothers

March 15, 2011 § Leave a comment

Grandmothers have played a significant role in the upbringing of many women. What are your views on the idea that a grandmothers dominant presence and control inhibits the maternal maturity of the mother?